All you need is a clan. Every Clan Hall has a custom NPC buffer with all top level buffs. To get dances and/or songs all you need to do is ask nicely any of us older players and we will be happy to help you.
All buffs, however, last for 30 mins, which is probably also good.
Let me/us know, when you are online to give you clan invite and help you with dances and songs.
It is not that you do not understand, it is that you do not even question.